The Bible tells us we cannot look inside ourselves, to our desires as a measure of right and wrong. The Hiedelberg Catechism 109 and 113 explain that even our desires are sin if they don’t conform with God’s word. In this article, personal autonomy trumps God’s word. Northwestern College calls itself a “distinctly Christian college” but a truly Christian college would not publish this article in it’s school newspaper.Mike Goll misrepresents Christian consensus saying that “homosexuality results from growing up lacking approval or love from people of the same sex” and that the conservative answer is “reparative therapy.”Christian conservatives make one thing clear — homosexuality is sin and must be repented of to enter God’s kingdom (1 Cor. 6:9-10). We all have desires for sin in our fallen nature. We must repent of our desires to look at pornography, or for fornication, or adultery. If God has given some over to unnatural desires (Romans 1:18-32) they must repent of those desires as well.
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BY MIKE GOLL
For the past few weeks during the latest election season, I’ve been struggling to put into words the things I care about the most. At the risk of sounding too cliché, I believe love is the greatest thing to care about. I’m not talking about “ring-by-spring” love, or our socalled “godly,-I’ll-say-‘I-love-you’- but-if-I-don’t-approve-of–you,- I-guess-I–wont-really-love-you” love. But instead, I am referring to true, “somewhere-down-theroad-I’ll-meet-you,-realize-you’rethe-sweetest-person–I’ve-evermet,-commit-to-be-yours-andyours-alone,-marry-you-witha–sea-of-smiling-faces-lookingon,-and-utilizing-that-blessedperk-of-legitimate-marital-sex,- consummate-our-marriage-andstart-the–journey-together-in-life” love. And yes, it takes a run-on sentence to describe something that beautiful!
Now is a good point to bring reality into my story because whenever someone asks me when I will get married, I’m forced to smile and say, “When it’s legal.” I’d like to take a second to let that sink in because I’m sure some of you are now reeling in disgust. I would, however, encourage you to not drop this paper, but instead, I suggest you embrace this moment of awkwardness because the fact of the matter is that there really are gay people here on campus.
Let me also add that it is not my intention to be just another radical voice in the Beacon but rather to shed light on an issue that never gets addressed by someone who fits the profile of it. I want to ask you, first of all, what is the harm of someone loving another human being in a committed monogamous relationship? When it’s kept vague like that, it seems innocent enough; however, when the matter of homosexuality asks for that same privilege, all we can do is worry if it will destroy the “institution of marriage.”
On the other hand, there is the science of it all; we find the question of “what makes a person gay” to be a mystery. The common Christian consensus is that homosexuality occurs when a person grows up lacking approval or love from people of their same sex. When that child grows older, he/she sexualizes that neediness, and the child becomes a homosexual. I realize this is rather clinical, but I think it needs to be addressed so that the conservative view can be explained at least a little.
From here, the conservative voice will encourage one willing to change their orientation to begin any of the following: intense reparative therapy against the slippery slope they seemingly chose; bite the bullet, find a good partner of the opposite sex, and hope for the best; or there are options so drastic as going to a live-in program—a gay rehabilitation center, where people can best distance themselves from anything that will remind them of their same-sex attraction.
The first crack in this fine wall of good intentions is the fact that not all homosexuals fit under the first category of “emotional neediness.” It’s not uncommon for very popular guys, even non-stereotypical athletic guys, to discover their same-sex attractions later in life.
Personally, I spent four years going to various counselors, praying to God to change me daily, attending conferences, reading books, and practicing prescribed curriculum. All of this ultimately lent itself towards depression, not the freedom that I sought. The honest truth is that when I finally gave up the quest for normalcy, I was able to be sincere and honest with God about what was going on with me. My struggles with issues became more focused because I didn’t feel like I had to be rewired anymore. And I was able to move on in my life with the grace that God provided. I know myself well enough to realize I couldn’t be heterosexual. It would be great if I was, but it just isn’t going to happen. More importantly, I know I couldn’t live the life of an “asexual celibate,” as prescribed by some conservatives.
So, with all that said, why shouldn’t I find one person who shares my love of Christ to share my life with? St. Paul himself argues the case for marriage, as opposed to burning with lust (1 Corinthians 7:9). You may argue that it’s impossible for gays to stay committed, but why should I buy that when I see infidelity all around me in the heterosexual world? And on another matter, how can anyone see just how true a monogamous gay relationship can be when it’s illegal?
Simply asking gays not to be gay is like telling a crying baby to shut up without an effort to calm the child. Any gay person would tell you that it is his/her worst nightmare to live a life without the possibility of loving the person he/she chooses. When these “crying children” are begging the society that raised them to provide a way for them to live as healthily as they can, they receive only rejection. In closing, and as a voice of this tarnished minority, all I can ask of you is to ponder if it’s better to shun people because of who they are or grant them the means to do their best to live out a beautiful example of Christ’s love.